Parents Talk: 9 Reasons You Shouldn't Spank Your Kids

Do you think spanking is a reasonable form of punishment despite a study that says it has long-term repercussions?

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I read about a study last week that concluded that adults who were physically punished as children were at a greater risk of developing mental disorders like anxiety or depression.

The correlation was startling. The study found that "almost 20 percent of those who remembered being physically punished had suffered depression, and 43 percent had abused alcohol at some point in their life," compared to "16 percent of people who were not hit or slapped who complained of having suffered depressed and 30 percent who abused alcohol."

I'm not an advocate for spanking, hitting, slapping or any other physical punishment when it comes to my own children. Counselor/therapist Kim Olver provided the following 9 reasons why you shouldn't spank your kids. Do you agree?

1. Spanking shows that “stronger” is right.

2. Spanking demonstrates that older people have a right to hit younger people.

3. Spanking gives the example that violence solves problems.

4. Spanking damages self-esteem.

5. Spanking can increase the likelihood of developing mental health symptoms.

6. Spanking damages your relationship and trust.

7. No one can learn when they’re afraid.

8. Spanking reduces the influence you have with your children.

9. Spanking teaches children to lie to avoid detection or to avoid you.

What do you think? Do you agree with Olver's reasons to not spank? In your opinion, is spanking a viable form of punishment? Tell us why or why not in the comments below.

Nikki Smith May 02, 2013 at 12:37 AM
I decided to spank my children because I wanted them to understand that some actions have physical repercussions. I didn't want them to learn fire was hot by burning themselves. A well placed spat on the hand was preferred by everyone involved. The term "spanking" is often confused with physical abuse. We have to understand that children are uncivilized, and lack language skills. In my opinion, a "time-out" is more abusive because it requires the parent to isolate and ignore the child. Also, a child should be warned a spanking is going to be the result of unacceptable behavior.
maxine weimer May 02, 2013 at 01:47 AM
I agree Nikki....I spanked my 4 kids when they needed it, and I spank my grandkids when they need it. And it dosen't make them think that hitting is ok, it shows them that if they misbehave, that will be thier consequence and then it is up to them to decide if they want to behave or get a spanking.
maxine weimer May 02, 2013 at 01:50 AM
I am sorry bob. but that sounds like a bit of hogwash to me. I am not sure why someone would study breathing for 30 years, but a couple swats on the behind will not cause someone to breathe differently. Are you a dr? How does one come to that conclusion?
maxine weimer May 02, 2013 at 01:59 AM
Spanking is absolutely not the same as abuse. Are you telling me you have never slapped your 2 yr olds hand for constantly touching something he shouldn't? Or are you one of those people who have no children but think you know how to properly raise them? I almost got into a fight with a woman in the grocery store one time because she slapped her 4 yr old across the face really hard. And she was totsally wrong, I feel bad for that child because if the mother does that in public, I hate to think what she does to her child at home. That is NOT spanking, that is abuse.
Rebecca Graham May 10, 2013 at 10:14 PM
I grew up being whipped but found a friend one day who was never beaten or whipped. She and her younger brother are some of the most passive and loving people you could meet. I wish I could have been raised like them. No I do not respect my parents. They took the zealot idiot way of raising children. Beatings are wrong doesn't matter what you call them!


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