Our Journey is Not Complete; With a Few Words Obama Changed Everything (Blog)

One Iowa Executive Director Donna Red Wing reflects on President Obama's historic inaugural address and the impact that his words have on the LGBT community.

“Our journey is not complete until our gay brothers and sisters are treated like anyone else under the law, for if we are truly created equal, then surely the love we commit to one another must be equal, as well.”

– President Barack H. Obama
Inauguration AddressJanuary 21, 2013

Monday’s historic inauguration address by President Obama was the culmination of two and a half decades of work in the equality movement and it was emotional.

I have been an advocate for LGBT equality for 25 years now and have celebrated moments of success and acceptance along the way, all the while praying for the day when our lives and realities would become the new normal – praying for the day when our great movement for equality would reach historic heights. We have sure come a long way.

It was Jimmy Carter’s administration that first met with gay rights activists in the 1970s. And he opposed the infamous Briggs Amendment, a ballot measure that would have banned LGBT people and their supporters from serving as public school teachers in California. Californians ultimately rejected that shameful piece of legislation with the support of Harvey Milk, but the public support from President Carter signaled to voters that this issue was important—that equality was important.

In 1987, Jesse Jackson Jr. addressed the LGBT March on Washington, saying: “Today I stand with you. Election time you stand with me. Together we will make a difference.” While running to secure his party’s nomination, Reverend Jackson recognized the enormous power of inclusion and acceptance. A few years later I met with Reverend Jackson who continued to be an unwavering ally of LGBT equality.

In 1992, we elected a President who ran on a platform of putting people first, including LGBT Americans. Bill Clinton was very public in his alliance with LGBT leaders and organizations. He was the first president to appear at a Human Rights Campaign Fundraiser. But those years were fraught with hurtful legislation masked as “compromise.” In 1993, President Clinton signed the military’s "don't ask, don't tell" policy which was supposed to be a first step to full gay military integration but led to an increase in dismissals. Three years later, in 1996, President Clinton signed the so-called Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) that denied federal recognition of marriage to same-sex couples.

But, he also proclaimed June 2000 as Gay and Lesbian Pride Month, saying in his official proclamation, “I hope that in this new millennium we will continue to break down the walls of fear and prejudice and work to build a bridge to understanding and tolerance, until gays and lesbians are afforded the same rights and responsibilities as all Americans.”

"The message is clear. The momentum is ours. Equality is within our grasp." 

Over the years we have seen outright homophobia and fear from the White House, and we have seen honest gestures of friendship. We have seen missteps and leaps forward, all taking us to a cold January day – Inauguration Day 2013, in Washington, D.C.

As we celebrated the inauguration and honored the legacy of Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King, we heard from our president that love is love, and that LGBT Americans cannot, should not, and will not be denied that basic dignity. President Obama included our Stonewall Riots in the pantheon of Seneca and Selma and honored the brave legacy of our forebrothers and foresisters in this long and painful march toward equality.

“We, the people, declare today that the most evident of truths — that all of us are created equal — is the star that guides us still, just as it guided our forebears through Seneca Falls and Selma and Stonewall.”

President Obama reached out, and with a few words changed everything.

The message is clear. The momentum is ours. Equality is within our grasp. For all of us – older folks who have really seen just about everything, to our young people who are just beginning to understand who they are – our president has named us and has recognized our great struggle. He has acknowledged and embraced our reality as intrinsic to the American experience. His words gave hope and reassurance to our allies, families and friends. And he sent a message to those who would oppose us.

As Dr. King said long ago, “The arc of history is long, but it bends towards justice…”

It is my great hope that we will take this moment and extend our hand to those who are conflicted and talk to those who need a reason to move towards equality. I pledge to reach out to those folks who aren’t yet there with us and to have conversations with those good, well-meaning people who are also on a journey, who want to do what is good and right, and who could stand with us.

In Iowa we have seen a cultural transformation since marriage equality has become law. Polling shows that more and more people support equality here in the state and across the country. As more LGBT people use their faces and their voices and their stories to counter misinformation and stereotypes, we gain support. As it becomes clear that we are neighbors and colleagues and family members, it is harder to brand us as ‘the other.’

Because of what President Obama did on Inauguration Day, I think we will see a seismic shift on a national level. The President of the United States embraced LGBT Americans in a profound and public manner. Nothing will ever be the same again.

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maxine weimer January 31, 2013 at 07:55 PM
But Rick if the law said as long as both parties consent.......then what? If there were no age limit to marriage what would stop those marriages? Like I said it happens all the time down south, even alot of 12 yr. olds are marrying older men and I think that is just a form of prostitution on the behalf of the childs family because they have to agree to it. Sometimes it has to do with not being able to financially care for the child.
Rick Langel January 31, 2013 at 07:55 PM
Dawn, does it harm you at all if someone else decides to have 3 wives? Or 3 husbands? Worrying about rights and property ownership is a by product of the government regulating marriage. Get the government out of the way and those issues go away.
Rick Langel January 31, 2013 at 07:56 PM
Government shouldn't regulate guns or marriage. Government should only regulate drugs where the use can infringe upon other's rights, like driving while impaired.
Rick Langel January 31, 2013 at 07:58 PM
As I noted in another comment, age of consent does matter.
Dawn Ask Martin January 31, 2013 at 10:02 PM
I reiterate. I am against children getting married (child-brides). I am against incest. I acknowledge there is a line to be drawn, but I don't have all the answers. The blurb I said about age goes just as much for immature 20-year-olds as it does for 12-year-olds, thus, I'm not sure age is always the best gauge. I never said polygamist marriage was harmful to me. I don't care either way if people want to have more than one spouse, as long as all parties involved are okay with it. I believe that it should be easy to dissolve unhappy marriages. Unfortunately, the part of no longer being married is not necessarily the messiest part of divorce. It's about dividing shared property. My comments about polygamy weren't about the union itself, but how to sort out the divorce, if it happens. In polygamy cases, if it were legal, you're not just dealing with dual-ownership, but with things that might belong to 3 or more people. Who gets what? In a polygamist relationship, is everyone married to each other? Or is there one who is married to many? Are these relationships all one way or another? If one were to leave the union, is the union of the rest of them still intact? As with all marriages, people would be wise to think about things before entering into the commitment - especially so for polygamists.


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